Here is a great story that illustrates how we view self esteem and how our perspective changes as someone ages.
Picture twins: a boy and a girl, 7 years old.
•She is a violin prodigy and is likely heading to Juilliard.
•He is an ADHD mess who still can’t color in the lines and can’t turn in his homework on time (yes, 7-year-olds have homework)
Which of them has more worth? Or more value?
When I ask this question in person, most people look at me like I’m crazy.
They’re seven!
Neither is worth more than the other.
Now flash ahead 30 years with the same twins:
•She is that violin prodigy who teaches at Juilliard and is first chair in the New York Symphony Orchestra. 🎻
•And he remains an ADHD mess who can’t hold a job and lives in their parents’ basement.
Now, tell me who has more worth or value.
This is Achievement-Based Self Esteem.
This is how we look at adults in today’s world.
These are the same 7-year-old twins who had the same worth.
Yet in adulthood, it looks different.
Adults struggle to see these twins with the same value.
Let’s remember the sentences of healthy self-esteem:
•I have worth because I was born.
•I stand equal to all, eye to eye and toe to toe. Nothing I say or do adds to my value nor detracts from my value.
•I am enough and I matter, in spite of my flaws and imperfections.
And yes, I’ve had some clients who look at these twins at age 7 and already see them differently. So the question for you becomes: at what age do you stop believing in inherent worth?
How young do you need to go in your mind for these twins to still be equal?
Another question is: how old can you go and still believe they are equal?
If you want extra help with feeling your worth or value, grab my free guide detailing Healthy Self Esteem & Decision Making here if you haven’t already.
It has exercises to help you figure out the source of your Unhealthy Self Esteem and affirmations to put into practice to bring yourself to your Healthy Center of Self Esteem!
Work with me to ditch the stress of self-doubt and finally live the life you truly want!
Where is your unhealthy source of Self Esteem?
Contact Me to book a call to work together.
Remember, YOU are enough and YOU matter