How do you bring yourself back into your inherent worth and hold yourself in warm regard when you’re feeling not-so-worthy? Today I’m going to tell you about a little tip I give to my clients and even my own kids!…
Something came up in a session today…If you remember the EASA Lens of Self Esteem (which is actually derived from Pia Melody and Terry ReaI; just call it the EASA lens because it fits with my name) E is for…
Lately, I’ve really been enjoying Dax Shepard’s Podcast, The Armchair Expert. I’ve listened to about three or four of them; and in particular, I want to talk about the episodes he did with therapist Phillip Stutz, Anna Kendrick, and Scott…
This week, someone brought to my attention some questions on the Better Than or Less Than positions that I talk about. Keep in mind: Inherent Self Worth is in the middle, or Same As. Better Than is “up” and Less…
Today I want to talk again about how we talk to ourselves when we mess up. When we do something wrong, for lack of a better term. True story: A couple of weeks ago, I took my nine and ten-year-old…
Today’s post is short and sweet: You matter. It occurred to me in one of my early morning sessions today that somebody out there reading or watching my content needed to hear that. You are enough and you matter. You…
Something really funny and kind of embarrassing happened when my assistant posted one of my reels to Instagram the other day, and it reminded me how I would have handled it back before I started using what I now call…
My assistant brought this Tik Tok video to my attention. She said, “This is your stuff!” It’s by author Wemi Opakunle. She shares a folklore story about an elephant who is tricked by other animals into challenging the lion as…
I was listening to the podcast We Do Hard Things and they were interviewing Dr. Becky (Parenting Psychologist- find her at ) and discussing her concept of “Good Inside”. I realized a while into it that her concept of “good…
Earlier this week, it occurred to me that in all my videos and blogs I have done on inherent self-worth versus outside sources of self esteem, I have never explained why this new lens doesn’t come naturally. Why we adults…
My son recently made the cross-country team at his school, and although all of the kids “made the team”, he was still very excited. But it got me thinking about the question: Why do some kids get upset when they…
A couple of months ago I saw a comedy special by the comedian, Gary Gulman. He spoke at a therapist seminar we therapists call “The Symposium.” He was speaking about a period of depression he went through in his routine,…
Let’s talk about Instagram and Facebook. And the views, and the likes, and the follows. (First off, specifically, I’d like to call out if you know any teenagers, I would love for your to show them this or watch my…
I typically talk about therapy only and how the concepts of Less Than and Better Than affect our lives. And that is still true, and that’s what I’m going to talk about today. But today I’m adding a different focal…
