Trying to make a choice when either one will have some negative drawbacks?
So much of our life, we try to “avoid the pain”, but we can’t always do that.
Sometimes, no amount of healthy thinking, no amount of boundaries and no amount of therapy is going to give you the magic answer that will have no pain attached.
How will you choose?
I share a personal story about when I had to choose between paying an exorbitant amount of money for a flight or miss my annual Spring Break trip with my group of oldest girlfriends.
So both choices hurt; go and spend way too much money, or don’t go and miss the trip. I chose to email my girlfriends and tell them I couldn’t go.
My choice wasn’t made from a place of feeling guilty/Less Than/Better Than, it was just a lot of money. I cried for quite awhile and was SO upset.
(God bless my girlfriends, they ended up all chipping in for my hotel room so that I could go, after all.)
Despite this happy ending, the point of the story is that sometimes, there is no way to avoid the pain and you just have to make a choice. You just need to make sure you are making that choice from a place of Healthy Self Esteem and grounded in real reasons, pros and cons rather than your inner voice telling you you’re Better Than or Less Than if you decide one way versus the other.
Work with me, Your Decision Diva, to learn to make confident decisions from a place of Healthy Self Esteem.
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