Judgment vs. Contempt
As I’ve been talking about self esteem, I have introduced you to concepts of the Center of Equality and Better Than/Less Than. The Center of Equality is where you say: I stand equal to all. Eye to eye and toe…
Self Esteem vs Self Confidence
The Vickey Difference What is the difference between self esteem and self confidence? Are they the same thing? Are they different? Do they overlap? They aren’t the same thing, they are different, and I don’t even think I’d call it…
What if You Can’t Find the Words?
Last Friday, I was at my kickboxing cla…
Boundaries…They Aren’t What you Think!
I want you to change the way you look at Boundaries. I want you to change the way you’ve been looking at Boundaries for your entire life. Working with me, you are going to begin to only see Boundaries as…
Why Aren’t You Speaking Your Mind at Home?
I want to tell you about the concrete l…
Do You Feel Confident at Work…But Steamrolled at Home?
This is a situation I see all the time …
How to Stop Letting Social Media Make You Feel Crappy
A friend recently gave me his take on t…
Boundaries vs. Walls—a Little Story About Henry Winkler
I was in the car this morning and there was an interview with Henry Winkler. If you don’t know him by name, he was Fonzie on Happy Days. They asked him about why he’s so willing to talk about being…
When Did You Stop Feeling Special?
We have friends who recently had a baby. I kept saying “Oh, there’s this great baby book on self esteem that I want to get for them.” God bless my husband. What he thought (sarcastically), and did not say, was…
The 3 Things You Can Do RIGHT NOW to Feel Better About Yourself
If you find yourself in “Less Than” mode, here are 3 things you can do to feel better RIGHT NOW. Deep cleansing breaths into your healthy center Use healthy affirmations! STOP comparing yourself to others and bring your focus back…
How can I Hurt Someone Else When I’m in Less Than?
Does it seem strange that you could hurt someone else when you’re in low self esteem? One of my therapy couples—the husband, Brandon—had been out of work for awhile and was feeling pretty down on himself for not enjoying that…
Connection vs. Worth
Yet again, I was reading an article that interested me. Funny, it actually wasn’t even just the article that I wanted to write about; it was one of the comments. The article had this quote: “Seeking affirmation or fulfillment in…
Is it Selfish to be Healthy?
Step out of the Contempt Cycle—for YOU! When you are angry, judgmental, or gossipy, you are in The Contempt Cycle—where you are feeling Better Than or Less Than others. And it’s not a healthy, balanced place to be! What if…
Call It What You Want—He’s Right
I was talking to someone a few weeks ago. No, I was talking to my children in front of someone. He made the comment that it shouldn’t matter what other people think of you, happiness comes from the inside. I…