All American Worth
As you’ve probably noticed from reading/watching my content, I am obsessed with the concept of self esteem. I also use “self worth” because I feel like “self esteem” is a little vague. “Self Worth” is: where does my self worth…
Category Self-esteem
Imposter Syndrome? Or Low Self Esteem?
Imposter Syndrome? Or low Self-Esteem? They are so similar and often confused. Kind of like how all rectangles are squares and not all squares are rectangles. Imposter syndrome is always low Self-Esteem. Low Self-Esteem is not always Imposter Syndrome. Here’s…
Can You Hold Yourself in Warm Regard?
How do you bring yourself back into your inherent worth and hold yourself in warm regard when you’re feeling not-so-worthy? Today I’m going to tell you about a little tip I give to my clients and even my own kids!…
Being Balanced
Something came up in a session today…If you remember the EASA Lens of Self Esteem (which is actually derived from Pia Melody and Terry ReaI; just call it the EASA lens because it fits with my name) E is for…
Coaching vs Therapy – What’s the Difference?
This week, someone brought to my attention some questions on the Better Than or Less Than positions that I talk about. Keep in mind: Inherent Self Worth is in the middle, or Same As. Better Than is “up” and Less…
It’s OK to Make Mistakes!
Today I want to talk again about how we talk to ourselves when we mess up. When we do something wrong, for lack of a better term. True story: A couple of weeks ago, I took my nine and ten-year-old…
You Matter.
Today’s post is short and sweet: You matter. It occurred to me in one of my early morning sessions today that somebody out there reading or watching my content needed to hear that. You are enough and you matter. You…
How to Cope When you Goof Up in Public
Something really funny and kind of embarrassing happened when my assistant posted one of my reels to Instagram the other day, and it reminded me how I would have handled it back before I started using what I now call…
Why do Some Kids get Upset When They don’t Make the Team?
My son recently made the cross-country team at his school, and although all of the kids “made the team”, he was still very excited. But it got me thinking about the question: Why do some kids get upset when they…
When I’ve “Made It”, Then I’ll be Happy
A couple of months ago I saw a comedy special by the comedian, Gary Gulman. He spoke at a therapist seminar we therapists call “The Symposium.” He was speaking about a period of depression he went through in his routine,…
Your Worth is NOT Your Facebook
Let’s talk about Instagram and Facebook. And the views, and the likes, and the follows. (First off, specifically, I’d like to call out if you know any teenagers, I would love for your to show them this or watch my…
I found the Greatest Love of All…
I typically talk about therapy only and how the concepts of Less Than and Better Than affect our lives. And that is still true, and that’s what I’m going to talk about today. But today I’m adding a different focal…
Achievement-Based Esteem and…Encanto?
Most people that I know of have seen the movie “Encanto” by now. I am not giving *any* spoilers…but if you haven’t seen it and see it after this, this email might give you a different perspective on it. The more you…
Why Are You Afraid to Make Decisions? Perfectionism.
I talk a lot about the link between Hea…