Judgment vs. Contempt
As I’ve been talking about self esteem, I have introduced you to concepts of the Center of Equality and Better Than/Less Than. The Center of Equality is where you say: I stand equal to all. Eye to eye and toe…
Vickey Easa
Self Esteem vs Self Confidence
The Vickey Difference What is the difference between self esteem and self confidence? Are they the same thing? Are they different? Do they overlap? They aren’t the same thing, they are different, and I don’t even think I’d call it…
What if You Can’t Find the Words?
Last Friday, I was at my kickboxing cla…
Boundaries…They Aren’t What you Think!
I want you to change the way you look at Boundaries. I want you to change the way you’ve been looking at Boundaries for your entire life. Working with me, you are going to begin to only see Boundaries as…
Why Aren’t You Speaking Your Mind at Home?
I want to tell you about the concrete l…
How can I Hurt Someone Else When I’m in Less Than?
Does it seem strange that you could hurt someone else when you’re in low self esteem? One of my therapy couples—the husband, Brandon—had been out of work for awhile and was feeling pretty down on himself for not enjoying that…
Call It What You Want—He’s Right
I was talking to someone a few weeks ago. No, I was talking to my children in front of someone. He made the comment that it shouldn’t matter what other people think of you, happiness comes from the inside. I…
Imposter Syndrome…a Rectangle?
They are so similar and often confused. Kind of like how all rectangles are squares, but not all squares are rectangles—fun fact! Imposter Syndrome is always Low Self-Esteem Low Self-Esteem is not always Imposter Syndrome. Here’s the Difference While they…
Simone Biles
Remember when Simone Biles withdrew from the team competition in the Olympics? If you don’t remember, or weren’t paying attention: Simone Biles is recognized as the greatest gymnast of all time. And at the Tokyo Olympics in 2021, she withdrew…
A Story About Twins and “Worth”
Here is a great story that illustrates how we view self esteem and how our perspective changes as someone ages. Picture twins: a boy and a girl, 7 years old. •She is a violin prodigy and is likely heading to…
There’s an A$$ in “Sarcasm”
My husband is *SO* sarcastic. Do you have someone in your life who is the same, or “ruffles” you regularly? Do you ask them to stop and they don’t? What do you do? How do you cope? In this video,…
What to Do When Both Choices Hurt?
Trying to make a choice when either one will have some negative drawbacks? So much of our life, we try to “avoid the pain”, but we can’t always do that. Sometimes, no amount of healthy thinking, no amount of boundaries…
There’s Nothing Pretty About Being Passive
“Being feminine means never lying to ourselves or others about what we want. “ If you’ve been following my blog, emails or social media, then you know that my favorite topics are Self-Esteem, Boundaries and Decision-Making. I stumbled upon this…
So You’ve Disappointed Someone…Now What?
A lot of women have come to me and said, “I’m afraid to make healthy decisions because I am afraid of disappointing someone. That fear of disappointment stops people from speaking from their true healthy self. So, you’ve disappointed someone……