I Felt Less Than
Shhh…can you keep a secret? I spent my whole life feeling Less Than others. Less Than everyone around me. I just didn’t know it until I began to work with the model that I am here to teach people now.…
Teen Perspectives
If you’ve followed any of my content before, you know the EASA (my name) Lens of Self Esteem. This is where you define your worth if you don’t believe that you have inherent worth that stems from the inside—just from…
All American Worth
As you’ve probably noticed from reading/watching my content, I am obsessed with the concept of self esteem. I also use “self worth” because I feel like “self esteem” is a little vague. “Self Worth” is: where does my self worth…
Imposter Syndrome? Or Low Self Esteem?
Imposter Syndrome? Or low Self-Esteem? They are so similar and often confused. Kind of like how all rectangles are squares and not all squares are rectangles. Imposter syndrome is always low Self-Esteem. Low Self-Esteem is not always Imposter Syndrome. Here’s…
Inherent Worth and Remorse
Hey there! Today I want to talk about another one of Dax Shepard’s podcast videos. His podcast if you don’t know it is called The Armchair Expert. I’ve already done one video on a topic that came up in another…
Can You Hold Yourself in Warm Regard?
How do you bring yourself back into your inherent worth and hold yourself in warm regard when you’re feeling not-so-worthy? Today I’m going to tell you about a little tip I give to my clients and even my own kids!…
Being Balanced
Something came up in a session today…If you remember the EASA Lens of Self Esteem (which is actually derived from Pia Melody and Terry ReaI; just call it the EASA lens because it fits with my name) E is for…
Getting That Brass Ring
Lately, I’ve really been enjoying Dax Shepard’s Podcast, The Armchair Expert. I’ve listened to about three or four of them; and in particular, I want to talk about the episodes he did with therapist Phillip Stutz, Anna Kendrick, and Scott…
Coaching vs Therapy – What’s the Difference?
This week, someone brought to my attention some questions on the Better Than or Less Than positions that I talk about. Keep in mind: Inherent Self Worth is in the middle, or Same As. Better Than is “up” and Less…
It’s OK to Make Mistakes!
Today I want to talk again about how we talk to ourselves when we mess up. When we do something wrong, for lack of a better term. True story: A couple of weeks ago, I took my nine and ten-year-old…
You Matter.
Today’s post is short and sweet: You matter. It occurred to me in one of my early morning sessions today that somebody out there reading or watching my content needed to hear that. You are enough and you matter. You…
How to Cope When you Goof Up in Public
Something really funny and kind of embarrassing happened when my assistant posted one of my reels to Instagram the other day, and it reminded me how I would have handled it back before I started using what I now call…
Boundaries and Self Esteem in Folklore
My assistant brought this Tik Tok video to my attention. She said, “This is your stuff!” It’s by author Wemi Opakunle. She shares a folklore story about an elephant who is tricked by other animals into challenging the lion as…
Good Inside
I was listening to the podcast We Do Hard Things and they were interviewing Dr. Becky (Parenting Psychologist- find her at ) and discussing her concept of “Good Inside”. I realized a while into it that her concept of “good…
Unconditional Love And Inherent Self Worth
Earlier this week, it occurred to me that in all my videos and blogs I have done on inherent self-worth versus outside sources of self esteem, I have never explained why this new lens doesn’t come naturally. Why we adults…